I recently decided to look up books relating to border personality disorder on goodreads. You know, just to get a feel of what was out there. I found a lot of stuff and not all of it encouraging. While there are many books about BPD I found many to be from people who are trying to villainfy it.
One book in particular called it a chaotic hell.
For this very reason I think I want to write my own book.
I am a mother with BPD. I am not perfect and make plenty of mistakes but my daughter is happy. She is full of smile and is the most loving person ever. Sure she gets into trouble as all four years olds do but I do not believe that her life is hell. Choatis yes but not hell.
Still, this does not mean that she will not grow up to hate me.
I can be unintentially cruel at times.
I can be ignorant.
I can spend hours alone in my room crying, yelling at her to get out when she tries to peek into my room.
I can be happy, too.
Endless days of us singing and laughing.
Times when my daughter has to remind me that it is passed her bedtime as I try to convince her to stay up for just “one more game”.
She is four but she has seen so much, to much, of this world.
I want to write a book that shows what BPD is for me. I want to write so that one day my daughter may come to understand even if she does grow up to hate me.
Many of the books are from people who left toxic relationships (friend,spouse,or family) and then turned around to talk a out the hell they went through. Others are from the words of people who were left by someone who died due to BPD and its systems. Very few are from those who suffer from it on a regular basis.
This excludes the medical ones of course.
I always said I would write a book after I have gotten 200 followers. I am getting so very close to that number.
I can only hope that I follow through this time.